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[dchenes]

I have arrived at the conclusion that I am not convenient.

Because I am not part of a couple, I end up being inconvenient for any event involving planned seating. Because I am not equipped with a car, I end up dependent on charity or public transportation, or some combination thereof. Because I live in Roxbury, I live an hour from everybody. Because I'm broke, I can't go out to dinner, and I can't go to any gatthering requiring contributions for takeout.

Because I wasn't laid off, I can't collect unemployment. Which I'm sure is convenient for the state of Massachusetts, but not so much for me.

My head has not been a fun place to inhabit for about two weeks now. I wish it would get better.

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[marmota.livejournal.com]

I've been in a similar spot for about a year now. A big part of perceiving it as a problem is the false impression that your friends are fully consciously aware of it, or assuming that they think you're intentionally being a nuisance. Posts like this are a good start at letting them know it's going to take a bit more work for everyone to keep you in their social lives. Planned seating just means TWO unattached people can be invited; meet them halfway and suggest someone they would also consider inviting that you could be paired with for it. There is no way around how much the transit problem sucks, but I've found it's much easier to get rides to out of the way places if a willingness to rendezvous with drivers at points more convenient to them than your house is demonstrated. I haven't found a good solution to the 'dinner out' problem. Broke is broke, and sitting there mournfully watching everyone else eat tends to depress everyone else there. Gatherings with takeaway, I've just said I've already eaten, or in the rare instance where they were pushy about it, brought a sandwich, and diligently not touched anything that was ordered. There are free things to do around town, it's possible to leave the house and spend only bus fare. That reminds me, useful T tip if you don't use a T pass; *always* ask for a transfer slip. More often than not the drivers don't mark them, so it's essentially a free one trip bus anywhere token good for that day.

Hang in there?